“What other people think of me is none of my business.” ~Wayne Dyer

You first need to accept yourself – all of who you are. This means you must start making the effort of looking at the parts of yourself that you reject, those parts that you ignore because you can’t be bothered to tackle, or youre too afraid to face, or you feel you’ll be overwhelmed if you did.

All the parts of you that you judged or you’re angry at or disgusted by, those too, you need to look at, confront and simply let be. let them express themselves, you’re simple giving voice to a part of yourself that you yourself have disenfranchised.

No one else can do that for you because you are the unique expression of what you are about, of that Consciousness, even that part of Consciousness that is out of balance. Because what out of balance is not a problem, it’s a regulating system, a compass to regain balance in the constant becoming that is LIFE.

You will not really find the solution on the outside, the only ‘entity’ you’re allow to call in for authoritative rescue is your higher Self within you. However, the bottom line is that you must start softening up with yourself.

Yes, you can definitely get a guide to support you through your journey, such as a coach if you really want to successfully navigate the dynamics of change and inner growth. Professional support is a given, if you really wish to commit to your conscious evolution and regain balance and wellbeing that vibrates through every area of your life, personal and professional.

Choosing the right coach or mentor it’s quite a natural process. It helps if you found someone who has already walked the path you’re on, someone who dedicated their life to observing and studying the inner workings of the mind – the psyche and the body. Someone who has taken the path to discover how to achieve inner wellbeing in the midst of profound inner change.

If you wish to start your journey of healing and encounter that part of yourself that you are still rejecting, denying, or ignoring, working with a healing guide who is not part of your private circle of friends can be a game changer in your life. Both personal and professional. Supportive friends are important, but don’t lean solely on them when you are taking on this journey, because it’s not fair on them to support you in some parts of it.

Let your friends be friends, don’t expect too much from them, they’re not your therapist nor are they your coach. Though be discerning, you want to surround yourself with friend and team members with a healthy self-esteem. Carefully choose your connections and softly lean on those who really love you and respect you who will be rooting for you even in your darkest hours, because they truly want your success. In other words, don’t burden your friends with unnecessary heavy energy or demands that they cannot fulfil for you.

That’s what an experienced guide is there for: to coach you in a healthy way with strategies that they tried and tested over the years and the course of their career.

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someone who is not invested in maintaining the dynamics of friendship as they are, and at your expense. Someone who is only invested in your success at healing yourself and does not have a personal agenda with you. That will be the perfect candidate for you to “interview” in a free consultation, where you can both see if you have the right chemistry to work together successfully.

So accepting all of your Self is the starting point for changing your life for the better. Learning how to welcome and embrace all the unpleasant things we’d rather discard from our lives – with a pill, or a drink, a binging of any kind, work included – will equip you with a powerful tool boxx for navigating muddy waters when you encounter them in your life.

You will truly discover that you do’t need to change anything or anyone outside yourself. You’ll gladly relinquish the toxic need to control your environment and you finally see and appreciate all the transformation that will have naturally occurred in the people in your life.

In other words: let everybody in your life off the hook, including yourself, and accept all of yourself and you will witness how other will have change.